“But I believe in one thing: each of us, for better or worse, is its own story. Indeed, his stories, including the ones not lived but only imagined and dreamed.” This is one of the most important passages of the book “Le scelte che non hai fatto” (Choices you didn’t make), written by Maria Perosino.
A perky and exciting journey exploring the life of other people, of those people who have lived a life that we chose to drop out. Choices and decisions in our life are fundamental and each of us must run up against in order to grow up.
Choices you didn’t make and its meaning
The book is a story that focus on empathy and the desire to joke with life, but above all on the curiosity of looking into other people’s lives without regret and sadness but only with a desire to understand.
Because choices we didn’t make will never be totally convinced: it’s the “49% factor”, as the writer called it. Namely, we take our decisions only when we are convinced on 51%. The remaining part doesn’t go away but it stands on other people’s feet. It takes simply a different direction.
A book that develops around a concept: serendipity, which is “the act of finding something valuable or unexpected when you are looking for something else“. We mean, just look around to realize that other possible lives, those that we decided not to live, are always beside us.
In Choices you didn’t make the writer defines these lives. There’s Olivia, Viola, Lisa, Orsetta and Margherita: all women that she might have been but that, thanks or due to her choices, she will never be. A digression with no regrets and no remorse, because remembering allows us to focus and to forget, when it’s possible.
Because choices define ourselves and they tell the world our past life. They are part of our personality and they are also able to turn our dreams into a success or a failure. So, choices are everything to us, because the possibility of choice makes us profoundly human. And Maria Perosino’s book shows it in a funny, inclusive and excruciating way.